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Stuck and Lost (but hopeful)

Pits are not permanent places

Pits are not permanent places

Joseph found himself in an unbelievable situation. Due to no fault of his own, he was thrown in a pit by his brothers, and as if to celebrate their evil deed, then they sat down to eat a meal! Genesis 37:23-25

Anyway, this one man was thrown into a pit by several of his loved ones – that was bad enough, but looking at his life, you know that he realized something liberating – pits are not permanent places. Talking about pits, another thing that people experience is this – one person throwing several of his loved ones in a pit. Oft times it occurs where you’re so trusting and least expect any problem.

Most individuals who succeed in throwing a group into the pit usually possess some charisma and you’d hardly suspect that they’re up to any mischief. They’re usually very smart and loved by almost everyone who knows them. And when they do something drastic, their beloved are left stuck, lost and in disbelief.

A family discovers that their husband and father has been living a secret life. According to his son, this man was a “perfect father” and his wife described her husband as “a good man, a great father. He would never hurt anyone.” Yet here is one tale of a church-going, scout-leading, family man who fell so low and become a serial killer, murdering ten people in Sedgwick County (in and around Wichita, Kansas), between 1974 and 1991.

His wife had been envied by women at her church for the way her husband doted on her, helping with her coat and always opening the car door. The possibility that her husband of 34 years might be BTK has left her “in quite a lot of shock,” said someone who had been a friend of hers since elementary school. (From Time Magazine, March 14, 2005, by Jeff Chu)

Whether it’s the discovery of spousal infidelity or some other kind of perfidy by a loved one, stories of lies, deception and deceit are not new in our day. When you’re thrown into a pit by someone else’s sin, yes, you will feel let down, and even ask God, why has all this happened to us?!

Beloved of God, you will not stay in that pit indefinitely. Every trouble has an expiry date. Have faith in God and keep looking up. You can, like Joseph, choose to forgive.

19 But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? 20 You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. 21 So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.Genesis 50:19-21

In this modern example, we see a husband’s forgiveness toward his wife who returns home pregnant with another man’s baby, after years of being a prostitute on the streets.

When you're thrown into a pit by someone else's sin, yes, you will feel let down...keep looking up. When you do, you will definitely see the light and receive new hope.

When you’re thrown into a pit by someone else’s sin, yes, you will feel let down…keep looking up. When you do, you will definitely see the light and receive new hope.

Do you have a loved one that has run down the family business or depleted your resources, maybe trying to feed their drug or sex addiction? Although it might not be easy, forgiveness is the only sure start to getting out of the pit they’ve thrown you in. Forgiving them means that you have not given up hope. It means that you’re positioning yourself to not miss God’s grace. It means that you have refused to be defiled by bitterness.

15 See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.Hebrews 12:15

Sometimes the enemy decides to use one person to embarrass, kill, steal from and destroy a family. As believers, we have to recognize this. We must identify who the enemy is and refuse to give him a foothold. Forgiving the person through which trouble has come is denying the enemy a grip.

Finally, I want to leave you with this wonderful word of encouragement from Romans 8:28,

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.



Bouncebackability: Gift or Choice?

Sometimes, something so significant happens that changes the way an individual lives. Such events define the boundaries of hope and despondency, draw the line between good and evil and make us aware that occasionally life carries both good and evil in the same breath. Many of us have gone through such situations or come across people who have faced them.

A while back I had the opportunity of hosting some children from Uganda all who have lost one or both parents to AIDS related sicknesses or some form of violence. Witnessing these hardships as a child is one of such defining events. I listened as they narrated their stories.

Rachael, who was 9 years old then, came from school to find people gathered around her house. She was told that her father had killed her mother before committing suicide. As if that was not tough enough, her father’s family blamed her mother for his death. Just like that her life had changed forever due to no fault of her own and she had nowhere to go.

At that tender age, she turned to the streets, begged and worked for food. Rachael’s destiny, like many other people who are born in poverty, it seemed, was doomed. Abandoned, alone and afraid this young child endured despite her circumstance. With a smile on her face Rachael revealed the secret to her bouncebackability.

“Before my mother died, we used to read the Bible together and whenever I wanted to give up, I would hear: “Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.”” (Psalm 37:24 KJV)

After some time she was rescued from the streets, accepted by a new family and today, Rachael, a college graduate, works with orphans and other disadvantaged children to offer hope and encouragement through the message of salvation of Jesus Christ.

Bouncebackability is about getting up, dusting off and trying again until you succeed. Is this even possible for a child born in the virulence of racism, raped as a child and becomes a single mother at 17, then later works as a nightclub dancer and even a prostitute? Maya Angelou wouldn’t let any of those experiences bind her destiny. She proceeded to become a leading poet, author, actress, director, playwright, composer, singer, dancer and a prominent figure in America’s civil rights movement.

Not every storm we experience is our fault. Joseph’s life starts out well. He was the favorite of his father Jacob. Then suddenly he begins to get these dreams indicating that his brothers and his father will all bow down to him; and his brothers hatch a plot to get rid of him. They conspire to kill him by abandoning him in a pit. Fortunately, a band of traders pass by and the brothers change the plan. They sell him as a slave. His life has just changed!

Abandoned by family, stripped off his richly ornamented coat, sold off as a slave, falsely accused, thrown in jail and forgotten by his friends, Joseph has a choice to make. Should he remain in mourning over what has befallen him or should he bounce back? He faced difficult times repeatedly but endured.

Joseph’s bouncebackability is amazing. This helps him gain a reputation as a dream interpreter and rescues Egypt from famine. This also saves his family from dying of starvation in Canaan because years later, when his brothers arrive in Egypt in search of food, Joseph is able to help them. Joseph’s ability to bounce back brings about a family reunion! (Genesis 45:1-28 NIV).

For sure “…a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again…” (Proverbs 24:16a KJV). This, in my opinion, is bouncebackability. It helps us to look beyond our present toward our future. It restores the spring back into our step. It helps us remember we are never out of God’s reach!

Other inspirational scriptures: Genesis 37:1-36 NIV, Genesis 39:1-23 NIV, Genesis 40:1-23 NIV, Genesis 41:1-57 NIV

Copyright © 2014 Dee Kyalo-Mwanzia

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Amazed By Grace


Anyone with a skeleton? Of course! It is the one thing every person and most animals in the world has in common. Or should I have added “in the closet”?

I’ve had it said that everyone has something to hide. Do you have a secret or other past memories that you prefer not to talk about with anyone else? I have had some skeletons and these do not only include my dark past but also embarrassing moments I’ve had that I simply choose not to unearth over and over – unless they are spiritually beneficial to someone.

One thing I have learned is that it is vital to clean up the skeletons in the closet sooner than later because failure to do so can result in abrupt dire consequences. More often than not these skeletons are sins.

Genesis 3:1 to Revelation 20 talks about how to deal with sin and get back to God. How can I be righteous before God? I ask this question because man’s righteousness is like filthy rags before God.

6 All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away. – Isaiah 64:6 NIV

Not even keeping the Law is good enough.

19 Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God. 20 Therefore no one will be declared righteous in God’s sight by the works of the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of our sin. – Romans 3:19-20 NIV

Abraham was righteous according to God because he simply believed God; not because of anything he earned.

The God of justice ensures every sin is paid for. Every sin is going to be fully punished except we lay it on another.

11 For the life of a creature is in the blood, and I have given it to you to make atonement for yourselves on the altar; it is the blood that makes atonement for one’s life. – Leviticus 17:11 NIV

The altars we read about in the Old Testament have blood poured upon them and this blood was pointing towards the blood of Jesus. Now the blood of Jesus has come – the blood that makes us one with God. And the cross upon which this blood was poured, is our altar. It is the place where our salvation was purchased.

I am amazed that Jesus took upon Himself my sins (including the skeletons) and that’s why He died. Without Him carrying my sin, He wouldn’t have died. Jesus would have hang on that cross without death because of His sinless nature. I am amazed by God’s grace and my labor is to believe in the finished work of the cross.

I encourage you now to bring out your skeletons, lay them at the cross and be prepared to be amazed!

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Setting the Pace For 2014

2014aDoes anyone else feel that nowadays years seems to go by faster? Remember when you were younger, Christmas took forever to come. Now, no sooner have you put away the Christmas tree, than you put it up again! Time just seems to vanish and it doesn’t come back. Nevertheless, I have discovered that God’s mercies begin afresh every morning. (Lamentations 3:23NLT) The mercies of God are new every morning. Think about that! Every morning you wake up, irrespective of how you may look or feel, His mercies toward you are new. For that reason, I write today to uplift someone’s spirit.

Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee. 2 For, behold, the darkness shall cover the earth, and gross darkness the people: but the LORD shall arise upon thee, and his glory shall be seen upon thee. – Isaiah 60:1-2KJV

As you enter the New Year, know that it is light that makes one shine – not luck. Jesus is the light of this world. In John 8:12KJV He said, “I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.” I urge you to get connected to Jesus, follow Him and set the pace for 2014.

Light is the flight that takes man to the top. When you operate by the revealed Word of God, you’ll be operating in the light and there is no way you can remain at the bottom. You may be wondering: What has following Jesus got to do with the Word and the light? Here’s what.

1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.2 The same was in the beginning with God. 3 All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. 4 In him was life; and the life was the light of men. 5 And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not. 6 There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. 7 The same came for a witness, to bear witness of the Light, that all men through him might believe. 8 He was not that Light, but was sent to bear witness of that Light. 9 That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world. – John 1:1-9KJV

Light provides direction
The Lord Himself will show you the way to go.
You will not stumble and your foot will not dash against a stone like in the past years because the light of the Lord will guide you!

Light brings dominion
Regardless of how gross the darkness might be, a little match…a small candle can still be seen and cannot be denied.
You will have dominion over every failure of the past years because of the light of the Lord!

Light brings speed
The brighter the headlights the faster your car moves in the night.
You will have clarity of vision and enjoy speed like the prophet Elijah even when the sky grows black with clouds and wind, and there are heavy showers because of the light of the Lord!

Faithful is He who has called you into a new year and He will do it!

Happy New Year!

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Despite The Dark Night


Some people will get to hear, understand and receive the gospel only through you because you are in a situation they can identify with.

Honestly, I’m this type of person who when going through a dark night, I want to get out as quickly as possible. I have a problem seeing clearly on on such occasions but over the years I have come to realize that sometimes God’s plan is not always to get me out of it but to have me make a difference there; to be the light in that dark night.

For days I have thought about and prayed for those affected by the terrorist attacks on Westgate Mall in Nairobi, Kenya. God has a plan to raise them up from the ashes. They lived through the darkest of nights and from this terrible situation these people are sharing testimonies and stories of hope.

Are you in a problem that you need to be a witness of?

This past Monday I was speaking to a dear sister and got so encouraged as well as challenged in my spirit. This young woman is battling a serious health problem but in the midst of her dark night she is offering hope and encouragement to those in a similar situation. She was at the hospital for chemotherapy and couldn’t help overhearing another patient on phone panicking about chemo, hair loss, side effects and a whole other range of stuff associated with cancer. As soon as the other woman hung up the phone my sister stepped in and shared the message of hope and the faithfulness of God. Even on your dark night, if you let Him, God can still use you.

This reminds me of Paul and Silas on their dark night: About midnight they were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them. (Acts 16:25). Some people will get to hear, understand and receive the gospel only through you because you are in a situation they can identify with. You’re more real and more relevant to them. View your problem as your platform or pulpit to proclaim the message of Jesus Christ. God has an eternal purpose for the problem you’re facing. Out of those ashes, where all seems lost; He is able to give you beauty.

More Than Conquerors

conquerorThe more I think about the promises of God the more I realize that though the promises of God are real and available to me, I am required to take some steps in order for those blessing to be released to me. When given something by God and He says to contend for it, it means that God has as well released to me all that it takes for me to win that battle. I am fully convinced that God cannot bring me out of Egypt to leave me in the dark.

In this brief writing, I want to encourage someone in battle. God is too faithful to fail. Has He not delivered you before? You know you have been in a bad situation before – and He showed up in your favor! When you journeyed from your slavery (to sin) toward your freedom (salvation), He was with you the whole time. Don’t you know that some of the people you were with in Egypt (bondage of sin) are now six feet under? Do not look back like Lot’s wife otherwise the help of God can be withdrawn. You are more than a conqueror – that’s how God sees you. Therefore do not attempt to be less than what you really are in God’s view. His view is that you will make it despite the resistance and or opposition. Your opposers will many times come packaged in ‘traditions’. They will say, “We have always done it this way – your way won’t work.” Child of God, hold on to God and His promises, forget about traditions of men those will only tie you against the Abrahamic covenant and make you miss out. You will not miss out. Be encouraged, because God is on your side!


From A Bachelor’s Journal

What people really think about their situations really fascinates me. It makes me understand the person on a deeper level. You know, sometimes there’s how people view you based on what they see on the exterior and then there’s who you really are based on your interior – which is usually hidden or protected. One of my single brothers, requesting anonymity let me borrow a page from his personal journal for my blog. So here is the entry he made on April 30, 2013.

guy-writing-notebook_0I came home famished from my 16 hour shift and was welcomed by a quiet house and an empty refrigerator. That is when it hit me right between the eyes. This had never bothered me before but today I was beginning to understand just how quickly a hungry man can turn into an angry one. When David was being pursued by Saul – he was hungry and exhausted; this impaired his thinking so that when Nabal refused to give them some food and supplies, David almost wiped him out with the sword. Nabal and his entire household would have died that day had it not been for Abigail, Nabal’s wise wife who came bearing food and words of peace for David. (1 Samuel 25)

So I’m standing there looking at this fridge going like, “If I was married by now, I believe some grocery shopping would have been done. Since two heads are better than one, we both couldn’t have forgotten to do it.” What kind of life is this?

I closed the fridge and sat down on the kitchen floor – thinking about so many things. I didn’t realize how or when I dozed off but at 4 am, the annoying sound of my neighbor yelling at his wife of 3 years woke me up. Rising up from the cold kitchen floor I prayed, “Oh Lord help me. Doesn’t your word say that whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from you?”

It has been only fifteen months since I gave my life to Christ and I am thankful that I didn’t get married when I was still not saved. My outlook on the whole idea of marriage has dramatically changed. It’s not so much about finding the right person for me,  I am now more focused on building my relationship with Christ, that way; I’m working on being the right person. As I observe marriages around me – some great and some really scary, I come to this conclusion: To enter successfully into the marriage arena, my walk with God and my maturity in Christ should be sound. I am so convinced about this that it tops my list in qualities I’m looking for in the future Mrs. Me. It is not enough for both of us to be Christians. We both must also think and act in a Christian manner. Our attitudes and actions must flow from the Scriptures.

That to me is what I call setting priorities right. My brother, thank you for letting me share your thoughts. God bless you!

Conquering Sin

We never conquer sin by adding more rules. Sin is conquered by sanctification – the process of becoming holy, more like Christ – a lifelong process!

If you prepare your heart, and stretch out your hands toward Him;
If iniquity (sin) be in your hand, put it far away, and allow no evil (wickedness) to dwell in your tent, then you will lift up your face without shame; you will stand firm and without fear. – Job 11:13-15

You can do this! I can do this! We can do this! Yes we can, because God is on our side!