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Free Rotisserie Chicken

As I walked into Walmart on Saturday evening of March 26, a Caucasian lady about my age stopped me and said, “Do you want some free rotisserie chicken?” She didn’t wait for my answer. “They are giving away free chicken and there’s only a few left so I thought to let you know so you can get one.”

Now, this was unexpected because Walmart store didn’t have to give anything for free; and it was welcome news to my ears – not just because we love chicken where I come from – but also it was a rare chance. I don’t know about you but never have I, in my life, walked into a supermarket and received a whole chicken for free!

In my excitement, charity amnesia took over and I forgot to thank the good lady who had delivered the good news. “Oops!” telling my daughter, Kayla who was with me, “How could I not say thanks? That’s unbecoming of me.” Upon turning around, the lady had already disappeared. “Well, I guess we’ll just spread it along.” The bearer of good news to the next person, that’s what I had decided to become.

The Leading

Whether it was the aroma or instinct leading, I can’t quite tell, but with a considerable increased walking speed, we arrived a table arrayed with “lemon pepper chicken” and “traditional chicken” – steaming hot!

Trying to tame the thrill, this was me: “What’s going on here?”

The young man managing the section answered, “Free chicken. Just pick and go.” And then he added, “One per customer.”

Awesome! Just the confirmation I needed. chicken

Needless to say, Kayla must have been a little embarrassed when, after picking up my bird, I went stopping every shopper I met with a broad smile. “Would you like some free chicken?” Not exactly pausing for a response, I’d quickly point them to the source, “They’re giving it over there.”

The Hinge

As you can tell from the date, this occurred over Easter weekend. A time which is so significant to the Christian faith because we commemorate the death and resurrection of Christ. We celebrate the atonement of Jesus Christ, without which we would have no hope. This event is the hinge on which Christianity hangs – without it Christianity falls. Christianity devoid of the death and resurrection of Jesus becomes as powerless as any other faith.

The Reminder

Easter reminds us that because of the death and resurrection of Christ, God demonstrated that Jesus is Lord and Christ.

Had Jesus Christ just died and been buried, then He would have been just like any other mortal man. But His resurrection speaks a different story. His bleeding to death was a guarantee that the resurrection would happen and God made a public declaration of it.

God has raised this Jesus to life, and we are all witnesses of it…Therefore … be assured of this: God has made this Jesus, … crucified, both Lord and Messiah. – Acts 2:32,36 NIV

The Good News

chicken3 Although they say that bad news travels fast like a wildfire and good news travels slowly, there is no guarantee that bad news will always get around faster than good news. That Saturday evening the good news of free rotisserie chicken giveaway had wings – it traveled fast. Everyone was either sharing the news or receiving it.

This made me think of 4 things:

1. Salvation

Without reducing it to chicken which is placed on a table and disappears after a few minutes, salvation is free and it is eternal. You have a choice to receive or reject it. None of us is too good that we don’t need it or too bad that we can’t receive it. If truth be told, we can’t live a full life here on earth and we can’t make it to heaven either – without it. This very costly gift is God’s free gift to us and our only responsibility is to receive it by faith (John 1:12; 3:16; Ephesians 2:8-9).

2. Evangelism

As Christians, we are empowered to evangelize or spread the good news. Together with having the right to celebrate Easter, we have been given power to take on the sacred commission of spreading the gospel throughout the world. Pointing people heavenward. This is what Jesus said to the eleven after appearing to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation” (Mark 16:15). Had He not resurrected, we would never have had any power to evangelize. We are His witnesses because His power has come on us to preach “to the ends of the earth” (Acts 1:8)

3. Needs and Wants

Not only does God meet our needs but He meets our wants also. The truth is this: I didn’t need the free chicken as at that particular moment, but when the subject came up, oh, I wanted it and promptly changed the dinner menu. It dawned on me, in a new perspective, that God fulfills the desires of every living thing (Psalm 145:16) and satisfies us with good things (Psalm 103:5) – and this includes our wants as well. What a gracious God!

4. Do Likewise

In The Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37), Jesus teaches on neighborliness and says, “Go and do likewise.” I had received something for free – it made me smile (more like giggle with joy), surely as a Christian, I have a responsibility to be a blessing to someone else and put a smile on their face.

Whenever God gives you “extras”, it is not so that you can amass – it is so that you can share. The small rotisserie chicken may not be enough to share with your neighbors, but you can open your hand to someone else – especially those in need and help provide for their needs. God tells us that the poor will always be around and commands us to be openhanded toward them (Deuteronomy 15:11).

Over to you. Is there a time when someone (a stranger) did something nice for you (for free) and you decided to spread the cheer? Maybe you can start a fire. Think about ways you can be a blessing to others.

*Dee Kyalo is the author of Crushing Invisible Barriers . Check out the book’s cool reviews and ‘like’ us on Facebook!


Stuck and Lost (but hopeful)

Pits are not permanent places

Pits are not permanent places

Joseph found himself in an unbelievable situation. Due to no fault of his own, he was thrown in a pit by his brothers, and as if to celebrate their evil deed, then they sat down to eat a meal! Genesis 37:23-25

Anyway, this one man was thrown into a pit by several of his loved ones – that was bad enough, but looking at his life, you know that he realized something liberating – pits are not permanent places. Talking about pits, another thing that people experience is this – one person throwing several of his loved ones in a pit. Oft times it occurs where you’re so trusting and least expect any problem.

Most individuals who succeed in throwing a group into the pit usually possess some charisma and you’d hardly suspect that they’re up to any mischief. They’re usually very smart and loved by almost everyone who knows them. And when they do something drastic, their beloved are left stuck, lost and in disbelief.

A family discovers that their husband and father has been living a secret life. According to his son, this man was a “perfect father” and his wife described her husband as “a good man, a great father. He would never hurt anyone.” Yet here is one tale of a church-going, scout-leading, family man who fell so low and become a serial killer, murdering ten people in Sedgwick County (in and around Wichita, Kansas), between 1974 and 1991.

His wife had been envied by women at her church for the way her husband doted on her, helping with her coat and always opening the car door. The possibility that her husband of 34 years might be BTK has left her “in quite a lot of shock,” said someone who had been a friend of hers since elementary school. (From Time Magazine, March 14, 2005, by Jeff Chu)

Whether it’s the discovery of spousal infidelity or some other kind of perfidy by a loved one, stories of lies, deception and deceit are not new in our day. When you’re thrown into a pit by someone else’s sin, yes, you will feel let down, and even ask God, why has all this happened to us?!

Beloved of God, you will not stay in that pit indefinitely. Every trouble has an expiry date. Have faith in God and keep looking up. You can, like Joseph, choose to forgive.

19 But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? 20 You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. 21 So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.Genesis 50:19-21

In this modern example, we see a husband’s forgiveness toward his wife who returns home pregnant with another man’s baby, after years of being a prostitute on the streets.

When you're thrown into a pit by someone else's sin, yes, you will feel let down...keep looking up. When you do, you will definitely see the light and receive new hope.

When you’re thrown into a pit by someone else’s sin, yes, you will feel let down…keep looking up. When you do, you will definitely see the light and receive new hope.

Do you have a loved one that has run down the family business or depleted your resources, maybe trying to feed their drug or sex addiction? Although it might not be easy, forgiveness is the only sure start to getting out of the pit they’ve thrown you in. Forgiving them means that you have not given up hope. It means that you’re positioning yourself to not miss God’s grace. It means that you have refused to be defiled by bitterness.

15 See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.Hebrews 12:15

Sometimes the enemy decides to use one person to embarrass, kill, steal from and destroy a family. As believers, we have to recognize this. We must identify who the enemy is and refuse to give him a foothold. Forgiving the person through which trouble has come is denying the enemy a grip.

Finally, I want to leave you with this wonderful word of encouragement from Romans 8:28,

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.


Following Christ: It’s not a matter of convenience

This morning I awoke to John 6:26 – Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, you are looking for me, not because you saw the signs I performed but because you ate the loaves and had your fill.

It got me to thinking…If nothing changes in your life…if ‘that’ miracle doesn’t come through, would you still be a follower of Jesus? Would you still serve in your church?

These people were not acquainted with the true and proper reason of what Jesus did, because they sought in Christ something else than Christ himself. Beloved Believer, how different are you from them?

Yes, miracles are real and they still do happen. Our God is a miracle-working God but are we abusing the miracles of God by resting in the conveniences of this present life e.g keeping our bellies full, rather than seeking the Kingdom?

They did not profit by the works of God as they ought to have done; for the true way of profiting would have been to acknowledge Christ as the Messiah in such a manner as to surrender themselves to be taught and governed by Him, and, under His guidance, to aspire to the heavenly Kingdom of God. On the contrary, they expected nothing greater from Him than to live happily and at ease in this world.

So again I ask: If nothing changes in your life…if ‘that’ miracle doesn’t come through, would you still be a follower of Jesus? Would you still serve in your church?

Lord, open the eyes of our understanding that we may see You for who you are.

6 quick signs that you’re in a relationship with a woman – not a girl


A godly man can distinguish the difference between a woman that falls in love with him and a girl that falls head over heels with the external trappings of his ‘office’, a woman that is positioned to view him properly and a girl that is possessed to view his property, a woman that respects him and a girl that inspects his every move…

My dear gentle brothers, here are some quick signs you can factor in that can aid make your decision easier:

1. A woman may have issues but she is wise enough not to leave them unresolved. Past issues that have not been resolved are often referred to as baggage. If she hasn’t learned to take up her baggage and deal with it as opposed to uncaringly loading it on others, she’s not yet a woman. A woman has learned to turn from her selfish ways, take up her cross and follow your lead. (Ref. Matthew 16:24 NLT)
2. A woman is complete, secure and independent by virtue of what she has received and therefore understands that she has everything she needs for living a godly life. She is in a relationship not because she is afraid to be single but because she’s attracted to you and she believes that this is an opportunity to give and share and develop a high quality life, together. (Ref. 2 Peter 1:3 NLT)
3. A woman knows who and whose she is – a crown of beauty and a royal diadem; and carries herself out as such. (Ref. Isaiah 62:3 ESV)
4. A woman doesn’t have the diva complex. She doesn’t throw her weight around delivering harsh words and making unreasonable finger-snapping demands thinking that the world revolves around her. She doesn’t think herself better than she really is. (Ref. Romans 12:3 NLT)
5. A woman is confident and powerful but not proud and arrogant (which is a manifestation of lack of a sound mind). She can voice her opinions and concerns without having a nasty tone or attitude – she displays love, grace and self-control. (Ref. 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV)
6. A woman is not only interested in your goals but encourages you to pursue them. She doesn’t tear you down but builds you up; trusting you to make the right decisions in your own life. This is her lifestyle: She lets everything she says be good and helpful, so that her words will be an encouragement to you. (Ref. Ephesians 4:29 NLT)

Here are more bonus tips…

A woman depends on God

A woman depends on God

Take a peak into a bachelor’s journal and please feel free to share your input.

Copyright © 2014 Dee Kyalo-Mwanzia.

Author of Crushing Invisible Barriers and Looking Up . Check out the cool reviews and ‘like’ us on Facebook! Both books are available here now.

Bouncebackability: Gift or Choice?

Sometimes, something so significant happens that changes the way an individual lives. Such events define the boundaries of hope and despondency, draw the line between good and evil and make us aware that occasionally life carries both good and evil in the same breath. Many of us have gone through such situations or come across people who have faced them.

A while back I had the opportunity of hosting some children from Uganda all who have lost one or both parents to AIDS related sicknesses or some form of violence. Witnessing these hardships as a child is one of such defining events. I listened as they narrated their stories.

Rachael, who was 9 years old then, came from school to find people gathered around her house. She was told that her father had killed her mother before committing suicide. As if that was not tough enough, her father’s family blamed her mother for his death. Just like that her life had changed forever due to no fault of her own and she had nowhere to go.

At that tender age, she turned to the streets, begged and worked for food. Rachael’s destiny, like many other people who are born in poverty, it seemed, was doomed. Abandoned, alone and afraid this young child endured despite her circumstance. With a smile on her face Rachael revealed the secret to her bouncebackability.

“Before my mother died, we used to read the Bible together and whenever I wanted to give up, I would hear: “Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.”” (Psalm 37:24 KJV)

After some time she was rescued from the streets, accepted by a new family and today, Rachael, a college graduate, works with orphans and other disadvantaged children to offer hope and encouragement through the message of salvation of Jesus Christ.

Bouncebackability is about getting up, dusting off and trying again until you succeed. Is this even possible for a child born in the virulence of racism, raped as a child and becomes a single mother at 17, then later works as a nightclub dancer and even a prostitute? Maya Angelou wouldn’t let any of those experiences bind her destiny. She proceeded to become a leading poet, author, actress, director, playwright, composer, singer, dancer and a prominent figure in America’s civil rights movement.

Not every storm we experience is our fault. Joseph’s life starts out well. He was the favorite of his father Jacob. Then suddenly he begins to get these dreams indicating that his brothers and his father will all bow down to him; and his brothers hatch a plot to get rid of him. They conspire to kill him by abandoning him in a pit. Fortunately, a band of traders pass by and the brothers change the plan. They sell him as a slave. His life has just changed!

Abandoned by family, stripped off his richly ornamented coat, sold off as a slave, falsely accused, thrown in jail and forgotten by his friends, Joseph has a choice to make. Should he remain in mourning over what has befallen him or should he bounce back? He faced difficult times repeatedly but endured.

Joseph’s bouncebackability is amazing. This helps him gain a reputation as a dream interpreter and rescues Egypt from famine. This also saves his family from dying of starvation in Canaan because years later, when his brothers arrive in Egypt in search of food, Joseph is able to help them. Joseph’s ability to bounce back brings about a family reunion! (Genesis 45:1-28 NIV).

For sure “…a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again…” (Proverbs 24:16a KJV). This, in my opinion, is bouncebackability. It helps us to look beyond our present toward our future. It restores the spring back into our step. It helps us remember we are never out of God’s reach!

Other inspirational scriptures: Genesis 37:1-36 NIV, Genesis 39:1-23 NIV, Genesis 40:1-23 NIV, Genesis 41:1-57 NIV

Copyright © 2014 Dee Kyalo-Mwanzia

Dee Kyalo is the author of Crushing Invisible Barriers and Looking Up . Check out the cool reviews and ‘like’ us on Facebook! Both books are available here now.

Who Am I?

Who am IWHO AM I?
I have no respect for justice.
I maim without killing.
I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cruel and malicious and gather strength with age.
The more I am quoted, the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society.
My victims are helpless.
They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face.
To track me down is impossible.
The harder you try, the more elusive I become.
I’m nobody’s friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.
I topple governments and ruin marriages.
I destroy careers and cause heartache and sleepless nights.
I wreck churches and separate Christians.
I spawn suspicion and generate grief, make innocent people cry on their pillows.
Even my name hisses.
I am gossip. 1

The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
they go down to the inmost parts. – Proverbs 18:8 NIV

1. Charles Kimball, Gossip: The 8th Deadly Sin Proverbs 18:8

Hurry Hurry

I’m always in a hurry – always set on beating time. I don’t know why. But this morning, as I read The Parable of the Good Samaritan I began wondering what kind of neighbor I am. I wonder how many people in need I have passed by.

One classic study1 found that when people are in a hurry, they are less likely to stop to help people in need.

In the ‘70s, Princeton social psychologists John Darley and Daniel Batson recruited Princeton seminary students to participate in their study on “religious education.”

For the first part of the experiment, each seminary student was asked to complete various demographic questionnaires. Once completed, each participant was told that he needed to walk to another building on the other side of campus to complete the second task of the experiment — which was to give a sermon on the Good Samaritan story. Half of the participants were told that the study was behind schedule and that they needed to hurry across campus as quickly as possible to give their Good Samaritan sermon to the waiting audience. The other half of the participants weren’t told anything about being behind schedule or the need to hurry across campus.

En route to the other side of campus, each participant walked by a man slumped in an alleyway. The man, who had been planted there by the researchers, moaned and coughed twice when each participant walked by. The researchers measured how many participants stopped to be a good Samaritan as they walked across campus to give a Good Samaritan sermon.

Darley and Batson found that 63% of the participants who were not in a hurry stopped to help the man. However,only 10% of the participants who were in a hurry stopped to help the man — even though they were on their way to give a sermon about helping people!2

In our times of hurrying, if we pause just for a moment we might be surprised at the available opportunities to be a good neighbor. May God help us!

1. Darley, J. M., and Batson, C.D. (1973). “From Jerusalem to Jericho”: A study of situational and dispositional variables in helping behavior”. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 27, 100-108.
2. Cleveland, C., Blinded by Busyness (2013)

Down The Slippery Slope

Is experience really the best teacher? Some people are very daring and prefer to learn by experience while others are just too cautious; they choose to learn by carefully watching surrounding happenings. I’m not sure what makes one daring or cautious but I think that it would be wonderful if we can draw from both our own and others’ experiences to become better people.

I have a daring older sister and growing up, whenever she got into trouble, I only needed to watch the ramifications to learn that whatever she had done was one more thing I shouldn’t do. It helped me a lot. Life is too short to learn everything by experience and I believe that is why we have the scriptures. For instance, a man does not need to find a Bathsheba to understand that the ‘affair’ King David had with her was evil. We can watch incidences in other people’s lives and learn.

Nowadays, even though we hear about a health crisis associated with promiscuity and drug abuse, or the problem of illegitimate births, we do not often hear the word sin. We prefer to call it a mistake but if we were speak like Jesus then we would call it like it is – sin! But try telling someone, “You didn’t make a mistake – you committed a sin.” Most likely, they will think that you are judging them and assuming a holier-than-thou attitude.

In John 8:4-11 we understand that Jesus exonerated the woman caught in sin. He didn’t debate whether she had truly sinned or made a mistake. Her accusers were positive that she had sinned and needed to pay the price. Jesus got her out of trouble and then said, “Neither do I condemn you: go, and sin no more” (John 8:11 AKJV). However, in our generation, we choose to omit the latter part; erroneously revising the Truth. Is it any wonder that we find ourselves spiraling downward into the deep end? For example, isn’t it disturbing that in a country with 80 percent Christians, 45 percent of women seeking abortion have had at least one previous abortion? At what point do we hear and exercise “go and sin no more”? Are we deceiving ourselves in the pews neglecting to live by the spoken Word delivered to us from heaven via the pulpits (James 1:22 NIV)?

The man who had been an invalid for thirty-eight years eventually got healed. Later, Jesus met him again and said, “See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you” (John 5:14 NIV). If we have had an encounter with Jesus, we’re alert enough to know righteousness from wickedness. Isn’t it interesting how a non-believer can easily spot sin when a believer commits it? God loves us and His will is that we overcome sin. He cautions us by His Spirit. The problem comes when we don’t heed to the warnings. How much are we willing to pay for ignoring the warnings? Failure to heed has a way of setting its price steeper than we ever budgeted for, taking us farther than we ever wanted to go, keeping us bound longer than we ever planned to stay, sinking us deeper than we ever thought and making us turn out worse than we ever imagined.

One doesn’t find themselves in at the deep end overnight. We can slide down that slippery slope without even knowing it until we hit bottom. If we hide our sins and live in darkness, we will never get the healing we so desperately need; in fact, if it is hidden so well that we don’t even recognize it, we may never even find forgiveness. I honestly don’t think that the woman in John 8:4-11 and the man in John 5:1-15 were ‘first time offenders’. It is likely that they had just never been caught but they meet the Master who lovingly forgives, heals and warns them. Can we learn from their experience? I believe we can.

Without Jesus Christ, like that adulterous woman, we will always find ourselves thrown in at the deep end but meeting Jesus reveals His grace to us giving us power to say no to all ungodliness (Titus 2:11-12 NIV) and enabling us to no longer continue in sin. (Romans 6:1-2 ESV). We need only stretch our hands toward Him and be intentional on getting rid of sin in our lives (Job 11:13-19 NLT). We can do this because God is on our side!

*This article was written by Dee Kyalo, Author of Crushing Invisible Barriers
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Church Leadership: Dealing With Difficult People

Years ago when I managed the Quality Assurance Department of a Horticultural company, I learned a few things about dealing with difficult people at the workplace but nothing quite prepared me on how to deal with them in the church. If you’re in ministry leadership, no doubt you’ve probably had to face this challenge. Every spiritual leader, from Moses to Paul, has faced complexities to their God-called leadership. I think that intricate church folk are undoubtedly the hardest challenge. How do you handle them?

Lately I have been going through an issue and I’m having to develop The Fruit of the Spirit all over again. Because when I examine myself I notice that some of the fruit are not all that well-developed. That shouldn’t surprise you since none of us is perfect. We all have areas of improvement and when you spot one area where you’re falling short, stop and ask the Lord to develop it in you. It is important because those that you lead and unbelievers around you need to see those graces operational in your life. They are not only an evidence of your conversion but also a testimony of God’s indwelling.

If you haven’t already, you will definitely encounter difficult brethren as you minister and you are expected to deal with them. With the hope of encouraging church/ministry leaders I’d like to share 10 lessons I have learned. Remember this:

♡Prayer comes first – always. Matthew 5:44, Luke 6:8
♡You’re not called to please everyone but to live at peace with them. Romans 12:18
♡Refuse to play their game. Matthew 22:18
♡Refuse to retaliate. Matthew 5:38-39, 1Peter 2:23
♡Minister/preach with kindness. Proverbs 25:21-22, Romans 12:20
♡Work with the willing. Matthew 22:14
♡Those are God’s people too. 1 Corinthians 12:27, 2 Timothy 2:25-26
♡Church leadership might be tough but you’re not alone. Numbers 11:10-17
♡Learn from those experiences – you’ll grow into and become a stronger leader. Proverbs 1:5, Proverbs 24:32
♡Above all, trust in God – He is the cure-giver; you’re only a care-giver and that, to me, is a privilege! Isaiah 26:3-4, Psalm 37:5, Psalm 40:4, John 21:17

As a Church Leader, think about what legacy you want to leave behind and remember that God is more concerned about developing your character than He is about fixing your problems. Here’s a word of caution: Moses did not enter the Promised Land because he struck the rock twice, instead of speaking to the rock as God had instructed him to. It won’t happen to you, in Jesus’ Name! You are called, chosen, anointed, equipped, blessed and sent! Isn’t that a privilege? Now, feed His sheep!

Copyright © 2014 Dee Kyalo-Mwanzia. All Rights Reserved.

Dee Kyalo, author of Crushing Invisible Barriers and Looking Up . Check out the cool reviews and ‘like’ us on Facebook! Both books are available here now.

Carrot, Egg or Coffee Bean?

I just came across this story and thought to share. Enjoy!

coffee bean carrot

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, Mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity — boiling water — but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you changed by your surroundings or do you bring life, flavor, to them?


~ Author Unknown ~