Are You Married to (or Living With) a Man?

By Olawale Ogunsola

“Sometimes, when you see how caring another woman’s husband is, you may be tempted to poison your own.”

This was a frightening statement from a woman in August 2014. I never expected a statement like this from her.

Why?

She is an attendee in her church programs. She appears as a Christian by all standards.

This woman became ill and her friend’s husband, a medical practitioner took care of her. This man used to call her to know her state of her health regularly. She received one of such calls when she came to me for counselling. After the call, she made that statement.

At that point, I remembered the conversations between Jesus Christ and a Samarian woman near Jacob’s well in John Chapter four.

Jesus said, “Go, call your husband and come here.”
She answered,”I have no husband.”

“You have well said, ‘I have no husband’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly.” John 4:16-18.

Now can the woman who said “one may be tempted to poison one’s husband” be said to be married to the man for whom she has five children?

Now let me mention seven reasons (among others) a woman may settle for a man to live with and not a husband.

One.
Death of a woman’s loved husband may rob her of her future joy from a new home. She may permanently close the door of her heart to avoid another wound.

The two daughters of Lot agreed that “There is no man on earth”.
This is a common mistake whereas God has alternatives.

Two.
Divorce is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. A disappointed woman may decide wrongly not to love any man again “to be on the safe side”. Yet she may live with a man for the sake of living together only.

Three.
Past waywardness for which a woman now pays the penalty. What do I mean? Many women have lost those who really loved them elope with a man in money or position.
Many are later abandoned to care for themselves. At this point, they go for “the next available” man and settle with same.

Four.
Childlessness that leads to a change of husband. When a woman is too anxious to have children, she may move from one man to another.
At the end of the day, she may live the rest of her life with a man who is not her husband.

Five.
In certain cultures and religions, forced marrriage takes place. A father or mother may give his/her daughter to a man as wife against her will.

No matter what she is given materially, she will not be satisfied. As an “obedient” child, she may live with the man whereas she married him against her will.

Another thing is she may leave the man to live with another next available man to protest her forced marrriage.

Six.
Covetousness is another factor that can lead a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. This happens when a woman cannot tame her needs/wants, especially if she loves money and other material things.
A woman can therefore live with a man for material gains when they are not husband and wife.

Seven.
Marrriage through deceit is another factor that can make a woman to live with a man who is not her husband. If a woman is lured into marrriage, she may opt to stay with the man.

The missing core factor in this matter is LOVE. This is the key factor that establishes a man and a woman as husband and wife.

However, no matter your circumstances, you must not fail to demonstrate God’s love to your fellow man. Not only this, you have no right to claim another man’s life. It is a sin against God and humanity.
Turn to your God… Pray to Him. Tell Him to heal you of all wounds and to give you His better alternative. You should be ready to cooperate and accept His new provisions.
Stay blessed and rapturable because the Lord is coming soon.

The Author is the set man of CTFM (WORLD OUTREACH) and Presiding Pastor of Christ Restland Gospel Church. He is a Poet and author of many books. His email is Bestabbey@live.com. Visit his blogsites http://www.4thlink.wordpress.com and http://www.peacelink.wordpress.com for more quality contents.

Article Source: Faithwriters

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