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Pits are not permanent places

Pits are not permanent places

Joseph found himself in an unbelievable situation. Due to no fault of his own, he was thrown in a pit by his brothers, and as if to celebrate their evil deed, then they sat down to eat a meal! Genesis 37:23-25

Anyway, this one man was thrown into a pit by several of his loved ones – that was bad enough, but looking at his life, you know that he realized something liberating – pits are not permanent places. Talking about pits, another thing that people experience is this – one person throwing several of his loved ones in a pit. Oft times it occurs where you’re so trusting and least expect any problem.

Most individuals who succeed in throwing a group into the pit usually possess some charisma and you’d hardly suspect that they’re up to any mischief. They’re usually very smart and loved by almost everyone who knows them. And when they do something drastic, their beloved are left stuck, lost and in disbelief.

A family discovers that their husband and father has been living a secret life. According to his son, this man was a “perfect father” and his wife described her husband as “a good man, a great father. He would never hurt anyone.” Yet here is one tale of a church-going, scout-leading, family man who fell so low and become a serial killer, murdering ten people in Sedgwick County (in and around Wichita, Kansas), between 1974 and 1991.

His wife had been envied by women at her church for the way her husband doted on her, helping with her coat and always opening the car door. The possibility that her husband of 34 years might be BTK has left her “in quite a lot of shock,” said someone who had been a friend of hers since elementary school. (From Time Magazine, March 14, 2005, by Jeff Chu)

Whether it’s the discovery of spousal infidelity or some other kind of perfidy by a loved one, stories of lies, deception and deceit are not new in our day. When you’re thrown into a pit by someone else’s sin, yes, you will feel let down, and even ask God, why has all this happened to us?!

Beloved of God, you will not stay in that pit indefinitely. Every trouble has an expiry date. Have faith in God and keep looking up. You can, like Joseph, choose to forgive.

19 But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? 20 You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. 21 So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.Genesis 50:19-21

In this modern example, we see a husband’s forgiveness toward his wife who returns home pregnant with another man’s baby, after years of being a prostitute on the streets.

When you're thrown into a pit by someone else's sin, yes, you will feel let down...keep looking up. When you do, you will definitely see the light and receive new hope.

When you’re thrown into a pit by someone else’s sin, yes, you will feel let down…keep looking up. When you do, you will definitely see the light and receive new hope.

Do you have a loved one that has run down the family business or depleted your resources, maybe trying to feed their drug or sex addiction? Although it might not be easy, forgiveness is the only sure start to getting out of the pit they’ve thrown you in. Forgiving them means that you have not given up hope. It means that you’re positioning yourself to not miss God’s grace. It means that you have refused to be defiled by bitterness.

15 See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.Hebrews 12:15

Sometimes the enemy decides to use one person to embarrass, kill, steal from and destroy a family. As believers, we have to recognize this. We must identify who the enemy is and refuse to give him a foothold. Forgiving the person through which trouble has come is denying the enemy a grip.

Finally, I want to leave you with this wonderful word of encouragement from Romans 8:28,

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.



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It Is Not Good That The Man Should Be Alone!

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a helper for him.” Genesis 2:18

This is a scripture that most people know so well but who is this man? You’ll be interested to know that the verse doesn’t speak for all men. Let me explain;

*Check out verse 15 – This man has a job (he works, he makes an honest living)

*Verse 16 & 17 – This is a man who God talks with, giving him instructions (he has a personal relationship with God)
*See verse 19 – This man can be trusted (God brings a project to him to see if he can complete it)
*Verse 20 – This man was smart/intelligent (not only is he able to figure out a project that he has never handled before but he also goes further in detailing… naming each ‘component’)
This is the man who God is looking at and saying it is not good that he should be alone.

God knows that this kind of man will clearly identify his help-mate when God brings her along. See verses 22-23. He will not be so unsure and unstable as to engage (read, go out with/date) and propose to marry several sisters only to break their hearts.
This man is mature enough to leave his boyhood and cleave to his wife. See verse 24. He understands that when he starts a family he will not be controlled by his mama (and/or papa) hence causing unnecessary stress to his wife. He is the head of this new family. He understands his anointing and gifting for this position.

This is the man who it is not good for him to be alone. May the Lord answer his prayer.