6 quick signs that you’re in a relationship with a woman – not a girl


A godly man can distinguish the difference between a woman that falls in love with him and a girl that falls head over heels with the external trappings of his ‘office’, a woman that is positioned to view him properly and a girl that is possessed to view his property, a woman that respects him and a girl that inspects his every move…

My dear gentle brothers, here are some quick signs you can factor in that can aid make your decision easier:

1. A woman may have issues but she is wise enough not to leave them unresolved. Past issues that have not been resolved are often referred to as baggage. If she hasn’t learned to take up her baggage and deal with it as opposed to uncaringly loading it on others, she’s not yet a woman. A woman has learned to turn from her selfish ways, take up her cross and follow your lead. (Ref. Matthew 16:24 NLT)
2. A woman is complete, secure and independent by virtue of what she has received and therefore understands that she has everything she needs for living a godly life. She is in a relationship not because she is afraid to be single but because she’s attracted to you and she believes that this is an opportunity to give and share and develop a high quality life, together. (Ref. 2 Peter 1:3 NLT)
3. A woman knows who and whose she is – a crown of beauty and a royal diadem; and carries herself out as such. (Ref. Isaiah 62:3 ESV)
4. A woman doesn’t have the diva complex. She doesn’t throw her weight around delivering harsh words and making unreasonable finger-snapping demands thinking that the world revolves around her. She doesn’t think herself better than she really is. (Ref. Romans 12:3 NLT)
5. A woman is confident and powerful but not proud and arrogant (which is a manifestation of lack of a sound mind). She can voice her opinions and concerns without having a nasty tone or attitude – she displays love, grace and self-control. (Ref. 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV)
6. A woman is not only interested in your goals but encourages you to pursue them. She doesn’t tear you down but builds you up; trusting you to make the right decisions in your own life. This is her lifestyle: She lets everything she says be good and helpful, so that her words will be an encouragement to you. (Ref. Ephesians 4:29 NLT)

Here are more bonus tips…

A woman depends on God

A woman depends on God

Take a peak into a bachelor’s journal and please feel free to share your input.

Copyright © 2014 Dee Kyalo-Mwanzia.

Author of Crushing Invisible Barriers and Looking Up . Check out the cool reviews and ‘like’ us on Facebook! Both books are available here now.


6 responses to “6 quick signs that you’re in a relationship with a woman – not a girl

  1. thenarcissistwrites

    Well said.


  2. This is so good! I could read this over and over. Funny, this is an answer to a prayer. You have no idea! I asked the Lord a question the other day. I didn’t know how he would answer it and here it is. Thank you. It says a lot!!


  3. Wow, Tamara, God speaks! Bless you.


  4. Thank you for sharing this.


  5. Pingback: 6 Sure Characteristics of a True Christian Man | Life: Not A Rehearsal

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